Exactly a week ago a friend and I did that thing likers of things do but really shouldn’t – we had a mid-week jam. Granted it was only a few hours, so it was a mini jam, but it was a jam nonetheless. But we went because we needed to break the monotony of our week, the running to and from work, to class, to dream-mapping in the twilight hours, to work again and and and round and round again in that grind that grinds you to a halt if you don’t rise above it. We needed a reminder that:
My first reaction when I saw the invite for The Feminist Stokvel’s Hair Soiree was, “Yes!” I love the acknowledgement of our context in the word “stokvel”. To me that pays homage to the way in which Black women have resisted The Racist Project’s erosion of their mental, spiritual, emotional well-being for decades now. There has been some effort to understand its importance in South Africa as a means by which Black Women support each other financially etc, but the stokvel as a site of resistance and organising in Black communities is under-theorised. The stokvel is about sisterhood, and sisterhood is still powerful. I love that this group of eight amazing women has come together to give other sisters an opportunity, a feminist space; to breathe, to rage, to gather. That act of gathering is a powerful slap in the face of The Racist Project’s hench(lynch)-men who have sought to first divide, then conquer us. Not today!
I walked away thinking, “Damn, there’s a lot I don’t know about my ‘fro”. I also walked away saying, “Yass! I love my gravity defying hair. I love my skin.” Which is important to remind myself, because:
Because I am more than what we have been through. When we gather, we are affirmed. We are informed. We are safe.
And, WE ARE HERE. We cannot be erased. We refuse to be.
Yours in slayage,
“Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke . . . She will need her sisterhood.” – Gloria Steinem
*Head on over to https://twitter.com/feministstokvel if you wanna know more about what went down that night, what was said, what they’re about. Xxx