- a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behaviour
- dishonor or disgrace
I’m ashamed of you, how about that?!
I’ve carried you because it’s easier to sink into you than to fight you off. Then I have to imagine an existence that isn’t dependent on me fading away, and that takes a certain kind of creativity and courage I’m yet to master. I cannot master it, though, if I don’t try. Masters are merely students who kept trying. And didn’t stop learning.
You’re slick, you know that? Your biggest trick is that you make me feel embarrassed about not being able to fulfill obligations that were never mine to fulfill. Who said I had to be perfect?
You blow everything out of proportion. Damn it! Why didn’t I see it sooner? You’re just trying to make me miserable, because you’re miserable too.
Oh, dear Shame – you rob me of intimacy. I can’t be in community and covered in shame, too. You’re a leech like that (“Shame is a soul eating emotion,” CG Jung said. Gosh it’s true!). You take wellness as your sacrifice like the spiteful witch that you are.
I deserve to laugh without feeling like I’m cheating.
I deserve to hope without remembering how I failed in the past.
I deserve to dream without fear that I don’t have what it takes.
I deserve to be me without being disappointed that I’m not someone else.
I deserve better.
This is farewell, and I’ve sealed it with a prayer and a mustard seed.
So then, goodbye, old friend.
And good riddance!
Living in love,
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” – Brene Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” – Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame